Someone I reconnected with asked me…

Sarah Bella
1 min readMar 11, 2024

How I’ve been over the last 5 years.

I’d never witten it out before so I guess I never realized how much I’ve really been through, but this was my answer:

In the last 5 years? An abusive marriage, divorce, my son coming back to live with me at 17 (he’s 21 now), two more bad relationships, a kink community that protects rapists and attacks victims, finally realizing I’m autistic and ADHD, my son’s divorce because he almost recreated the cycle after I broke it, my dog passed away, my rapist knows I’m DJ’ing out here and now I don’t want to work, my mother is still playing her games, I went through three therapists before I found a good one, and I THINK that’s all?

So you know, the usual. 😅

Photo by Brett Jordan on Unsplash

Oof. Yeah. And I even forgot about being hospitalized for sepsis because of my ex husband’s abuse and the way I was treated when I was stripping.

Don’t even get me started on my life before 5 years ago.

My parents thought I’d be dead by 25. I transitioned at 26, got cancer in my early 30’s, and it’s been non-stop trauma from birth.

How the fuck am I still alive?! 😬😅😂

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Sarah Bella
Sarah Bella

Written by Sarah Bella

Life: stranger than fiction. Special interests, the stuff of neurodivergence: AuDHD/INTJ. Intersect. Feminism/Mental & Sexual Health/Poli-Psy/Pop Culture/More

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I am curious - beyond challenging the numbers as being wholly attributable to narcissism, what is it about my response that makes you think that I am a "projecting narcissist"?
I don't share your opinion and none of the shrinks I have been to have…

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