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Kink event organizers need to do more for safety.
When dealing with a host of activities that involve risk, everything else is secondary.
There are many reasons why so many kink event organizers take a hand-off approach to addressing safety concerns. The most prevalent are organizers finding unsafe behavior to be the norm, social repercussions to the organizer, “understanding” for people with social difficulties, and my personal favorite: dismissing it as “he said, she said” when it isn’t.
These are things for organizers to keep in mind:
First, there are people who are known to have REPEATED allegations against them from a multitude of people, many of which are witnessed by trusted others. Also, there are many with criminal records for same. Where there’s smoke, there’s fire.
Second, you can’t ‘kick anyone out’ of the community, you can only refuse to include them at your events, but people have a right to know if others have exhibited questionable (and especially outright violating) personal behavior.
Third, if a person reports another for a violation, it’s up to them if they want organizers to investigate the matter, but it could potentially ‘out’ the complainant, and that often helps protect violators. Keep an eye…
